MEMBER SPOTLIGHT
Success Stories:
Beyond The Connections
At Kopi Date, our vision of success transcends the traditional milestone of finding “the one”.
We believe that true success in dating encompasses both the discovery of a fulfilling relationship and the journey of personal growth that comes along with it. This series shines a light on members who embody our ethos of growth-minded dating.
Cooking Up a Recipe for Growth
S.F.
Food Scientist
From Pocky prototypes to personal growth, S.F.'s story unfolds like a recipe for success beyond the conventional ingredients of dating.
Through laughter, shared stories, and the occasional surprise, S.F. navigates the path of personal and relational growth, crafting a narrative that's as enriching as it is flavourful.
S.F. is a passionate food scientist and a vibrant member of Kopi Date.
Her journey into the world of food science began during her school years, sparked by a senior's insight into the field's promising career prospects. Despite the challenges posed by the COVID-19 lockdown, her commitment to the craft never waned, working tirelessly on customer-based projects for brands like Gardenia and indulging in their love for cafe hopping. Among her most passionate endeavours are the innovative prototypes for new Pocky flavours, a testament to S.F.'s creative spirit and dedication to innovative excellence.
Mixing Flavors & Finding Love
Balancing a demanding professional life with personal pursuits is something S.F. has mastered. Her strategy is straightforward yet impactful: weekdays are reserved for her work in food science, while weekends open the door to socializing and exploring connections. This is where S.F. found her place in Kopi Date.
Prior experiences on dating platforms like Bumble left S.F. yearning for something more substantial. She noticed a prevailing trend towards casual encounters, which was a stark contrast to her desire for deeper, more meaningful relationships. After watching a TikTok video by Kopi Date’s founders about dating misconceptions, S.F. decided to take the leap, drawn by their focus on meaningful connections and its refreshing departure from the unfiltered world of casual dating apps. This marked the beginning of an enriching chapter that aligned with her core values and aspirations.
S.F. on an adventure
What many might not know is that at the heart of her story is a deep-seated value for personal development, a theme that resonates through her journey of self-improvement. When asked if she was someone who valued growth, with confidence, she immediately responds, “Definitely.” This isn't just a theoretical concept for S.F.; it's a lived experience. A key part of S.F.’s journey has been her dedication to self-improvement. She mentions that she is “constantly looking to improve [herself]”. A few years ago, S.F. was 10 kilograms heavier. Yet, for S.F., this isn't merely about numbers on a scale—it symbolises a deeper, more comprehensive shift towards embracing her true self.
This shift has been instrumental in how Suyi approaches dating and social interactions. “Being myself more and going on dates," she shares, highlighting how personal acceptance and self-love have been crucial to her growth.
The Kopi Date Experience
“I've learned that I'm actually more confident now compared to before.”
In her journey, S.F. approaches each date with an open mind and a focus on understanding who her dates are, rather than giving in to the pressure. Her Kopi Date experience has been a rewarding experience of low-pressure encounters. One particular date stands out in her memory, not for its grand romantic gestures, but for a delightful coincidence that turned an ordinary meeting into a memorable story.
She recalls seeing a familiar face as she sits down at the table - she had encountered this person before, not on a previous date, but as a fellow patron at the café where her third Kopi Date had taken place. This unexpected twist provided an immediate icebreaker, transforming their casual coffee date into an animated exchange of stories and shared laughter.
As S.F.'s journey with Kopi Date unfolded, it was clear to her that the memorable experiences and the laughter shared over coffee were not just moments of connection but also opportunities for introspection. This path of discovery led S.F. to garner valuable insights about herself and the nature of relationships in the digital age.
When asked about the lessons learned from her dating journey, S.F. shared, “I've learned that I'm actually more confident now compared to before. Initially, when using traditional dating apps, I was quite unsure of myself." This newfound confidence, she explains, stems in part from the personalised feedback Kopi Date offers its members. “Through personalised feedback, I understand what went wrong and what I can improve on. I need more of this tailored insight to grow."
Reflecting on what advice she would offer her past self, S.F. emphasized the importance of staying grounded and present. “Don't put people on a pedestal. Just live in the moment and get to know people," she advises. Suyi also touched on the tendency to overthink that often accompanies online dating. “Meeting someone face-to-face cuts through the overthinking. Online, it's easy to get caught up in expectations or to present a different persona. In person, the connection feels more genuine."
S.F.’s Message To You
“It's a process that involves introspection, seeking feedback, and embracing opportunities to learn and adapt."
For S.F., success in dating and relationships is synonymous with finding someone who shares similar values and a mutual desire for growth. This vision of success, coupled with a proactive approach to self-improvement and authenticity, has defined S.F.'s Kopi Date experience.
It's a process that involves introspection, seeking feedback, and embracing opportunities to learn and adapt. S.F. is particularly mindful of her communication, finding ways to ask open-ended questions that invite deeper conversation and connection.
The Kopi Date experience kit emerges as a cherished aspect of S.F.'s dating journey at Kopi Date, offering unique opportunities for shared interests and meaningful exchanges, like swapping books with a date at the Book Bar, one of our newest partner cafes. It's these distinctive elements that S.F. believes elevate Kopi Date beyond traditional dating platforms, providing an unparalleled dating experience centred around reflection and shared interests.
For those contemplating joining Kopi Date or current members navigating the dating scene, S.F. offers sage advice: be yourself, and what's meant for you will find its way. The experience kit, a hallmark of the Kopi Date journey, promises an extraordinary experience unlike any other, fostering connections that go beyond the superficial.
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