Member Spotlight feat. J.Y.
J.Y.
Counsellor
Laid-back Disciplined Introvert
As a counselling psychologist with an unwavering love for all things Marvel, I proudly don the title of your friendly neighbourhood SG Joe.
With a genuine and caring demeanour, I effortlessly connect with others, making me a beacon of approachability. I am a seeker of life's simplest treasures, embracing a down-to-earth perspective that resonates with my soul.
Spending quality time with the people who matter most to me brings immense joy. I also have a deep passion for exploring new and intriguing places, seeking out different experiences, and of course, indulging in the pleasures of good food! However, I also understand the importance of self-care and value my me-time. It's during these moments that I find solace in listening to my favourite songs, unwinding at home with a great movie, and enjoying a delicious meal delivered right to my door.
Looking ahead, I eagerly anticipate new adventures alongside Kopi Date!
Once a dedicated member of numerous dating agencies, J.Y. found himself caught in the relentless cycle of meaningless texting and endless swiping—a soul-sucking experience that not only consumed his emotions but also drained his finances. (To be specific, it cost him hundreds or even thousands of dollars.) Despite investing significant resources, he had nothing substantial to show for it.
However, everything changed when he discovered Kopi Date. Intrigued by the prospect of engaging in consistent, once-a-month coffee experience at a significantly more affordable price, J.Y.'s curiosity was piqued. With Kopi Date, he now had the opportunity to meet genuine individuals and forge truly authentic connections, creating treasured memories that would endure far beyond fleeting interactions.
How did you feel before the first Kopi Date? Any pre-date thoughts!
The anticipation leading up to each meet-up is truly exciting, especially considering the unique nature of the Kopi Date experience. One aspect that consistently adds to my excitement is the sneak peek "about your date" section. With its catchy tagline and insightful summary, I find myself eagerly reading every detail. It serves as an excellent conversation starter and allows me to gain a deeper understanding of my partner before the date even begins.
Do you find yourself developing any expectations or thoughts before meeting your Kopi Date in person?
I genuinely believe in the value of approaching each Kopi Date meet-up with an open mind, as it encourages me to see the profile summaries as mere introductions rather than setting rigid expectations. Personally, I have been pleasantly surprised to find that there haven't been any discrepancies between my initial thoughts and the actual behavior of the individuals I've met in person. This harmonious alignment between the profiles and the genuine experiences has allowed for authentic connections to flourish, surpassing any preconceived notions.
What stands out as the most memorable aspect of your Kopi Date experience?
While all of my Kopi Date experiences have been delightful, one that truly stands out is the walk-and-talk series in Tiong Bahru!
What made this particular experience so special was the chance to explore new surroundings and discover the area. Being someone who doesn't often get the opportunity to go out and explore, it was a refreshing and invigorating experience. Arab Street, in particular, left a lasting impression on me, adding an extra layer of magic to the overall experience.
Kopi Date: It's remarkable to reflect on the experiences you've had with Kopi Date. As we delve into your thoughts and reflections, I'm genuinely interested to hear about your overall impressions and feelings about your time with Kopi Date.
J.Y.: Having tried out several dating agencies before joining Kopi Date, I have a solid basis for comparison. I must say, most of the dates I went on through Kopi Date were enjoyable.
I appreciate the consistency of having one Kopi Date experience every month. One aspect that truly stands out for me is the Experience Kit. It serves as a fantastic icebreaker, helping to facilitate engaging conversations. Furthermore, I find Kopi Date's pricing to be reasonable. In fact, I believe that by maintaining this pricing range, Kopi Date can attract even more people in the future.
In regard to Kopi Date's mission of building true human connections through intentional dating and personal growth, how closely do you feel we align with our objectives?
From my perspective, Kopi Date has done a commendable job of living up to its communicated mission and core values.
However, it's important to acknowledge that there may be misunderstandings among members who hold specific expectations or hopes for certain outcomes. I must admit, I had similar thoughts when I initially joined. But as I embarked on this journey, I came to the realisation that no one can guarantee what will transpire after a meet-up (even with dating agencies). Instead, the key is to focus on the one-time experience and savour each moment to the fullest. By embracing this mindset, I found that Kopi Date's objectives and my own personal goals aligned harmoniously.
How well do you relate to the Kopi Date values during your experiences?
I find myself highly relatable to the core values upheld by Kopi Date. Being open to meeting people from diverse backgrounds is something that truly resonates with me. Whether my date partner works in a completely different field or resides far away, I appreciate the opportunity that Kopi Date provides to connect with individuals I may not have encountered otherwise.
When it comes to dating, I have developed a healthy perspective on managing my expectations. I understand that genuine connections take time to develop and that immediate results are not always the measure of success. This mindset allows me to approach each date authentically and embrace the journey of getting to know someone. Ultimately, my focus is on creating an enjoyable experience for both myself and my partner, which I consider a win-win outcome.
How would you rate personal growth as you approached your Kopi Date experiences?
Personal growth has taken on a newfound significance for me throughout journey with Kopi Date. The beauty lies in the opportunity to discover new places and engage in various activities that I wouldn't typically venture into. This has allowed me to expand my horizons and share these enriching experiences with my friends, who have embraced them wholeheartedly.
Furthermore, the Experience Kit has proven to be an invaluable tool not only during the Kopi Date meet-ups but also in my personal life. The thought-provoking prompts within the kit have prompted deep reflection, enabling me to gain insights and growth by examining various aspects of my own life. This introspective process has added an extra layer of fulfillment to my overall journey with Kopi Date.