WHERE HEALTHY DATING CAN TAKE YOU
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WHERE HEALTHY DATING CAN TAKE YOU ☁️
A candid conversation with Beatrix & Jeremy
Kopi Date is committed to empowering singles with the right perspectives to have healthy, lasting relationships.
Welcome to Beyond the Brew, where we give you an insight into members of the Kopi Date community and the wonderful connections they have formed. 🤎
Tell us the story of your first Kopi Date!
We did a walking date along Haji Lane with some of the Kopi Date questions but we soon veered off from them as we felt the conversation go into deeper topics
What was dating like pre-Kopi Date?
J: I went on a few first dates with friends, but I never used any dating apps as I found it to be too transactional in nature.
B: To me the important thing about dating was to meet people who were radically different from me. I wanted to meet people outside my circle, and held different worldviews who could challenge me. [On dating apps] there were tons of unspoken rules of communication, trying to read the level of interest in the other party, having 2 weeks of talking before meeting them up etc. All of that made it extremely emotionally draining for me and you are left with numbers and conversation with people you only know superficially just drifting around in your phone.
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How did you approach your Kopi Date experience?
J - One of the most important things I learned for myself is that love is a practice, and not something that happens to us. Rather than “fall” in love, you remain in love.
I believe that dating isn’t a numbers game where you keep trying until it works, but it is two people being very intentional about understanding themselves and then actively striving to understand and support the other person for all that they are. […] there is self-development and knowing your own values and what matters to you
J - I have put in a ton of work in developing my sense of self and personal values. My approach to dating is broken down to 3 stages:
On the first 2 dates, trust your gut. Did talking to them make you feel heard and safe?
On the next few dates observe what they do in response to the things you say. Did they remember you had a traumatic relationship before and asked you how you would cope with it in a new relationship? These questions point to a growth mindset as well.
Before getting together, talk about what a loving relationship looks like.
“Love is a practice, and not something that happens to us.”
JEREMY
Why do you think joining Kopi Date gave you such a successful dating experience?
J - I never used any other dating platforms, but I didn’t approach Kopi Date as a dating platform. The idea of a blind meetup is interesting and my mindset was that regardless of how things developed, I would still seek to genuinely know the other person. I think Kopi Date excels in providing a space for good conversations to happen!
B - It has taken away so much hassle in thinking about “how to play the game”. Like having to approach someone, measure interest, then set up a meeting, all while sussing the person out online. Having Kopi date do an interview of all the people who are on the platform meant I met better calibre people, and i didn’t have to lift a finger to plan anything. I can just show up and see where the date goes.
Not having their contact or name beforehand also removes the judgement from online sleuthing and bonus, not having to save a stranger’s number!
How have you grown as individuals and as a partner since your first Kopi Date?
J - In our relationship I’m more of a thinker than a doer, while Beatrix is the opposite. As a partner, I think that living in close proximity creates a lot of situations there there is misunderstanding or miscommunication, and it’s a constant relearning process to be patient and understanding, not assuming to know the other person.
B - Learning to live with someone else besides yourself is a very rewarding thing. Your life expands and you have to slow down and become aware that what you do matters to someone else. That has made me more mindful with the way I spend my time, and the way i speak and express love. I have also learnt the value of protecting my time and energy for the more important things in life like my health, my personal growth and the core relationships i want to keep.
Advice to others thinking of joining Kopi Date!
J - I think in today’s dating scene where everyone is so focused on finding the “one true love” (yikes), Kopi Date is keeping it real and allowing for curiousity. So be curious!
B - Try only if you are someone who respects your time and want to take the hassle out of dating. All you need to do is show up! I love that I dont have to sink a few days/weeks speaking to someone before meeting them up. And because the people are curated you generally get a higher quality of connections.
The shortest path to a healthy relationship.
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Success Stories
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Beatrix & Jeremy
I didn’t approach Kopi Date as a dating platform. We were both in a place of growth and willing to do the heavy lifting early in the relationship.
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Kathy & Jun Hui
Kopi Date has helped to improve my views on relationships and dating as a whole, providing me with various perspectives that helped me reflect better on myself.
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Iman & Alexandra
At the end of the day, a relationship is about the willingness to communicate and come to a compromise.
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Zach & Serena
Kudos and shout out to the awesome KD team for their dedication to ensure a pleasant curation and user experience. Absolutely no regrets!
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